No Worries

As we get older, we become more independent. We do not rely on our parents much. We handle everything ourselves. And, hence it will come to a stage that we tell them less as well. We tend not to tell them every details as we do not want them to worry. In certain aspects, they cannot help and by telling them all the problems will just make them worry more, especially when we are far away from home. I remembered complaining about my honours research to my mum. She got so worried that she started thinking on what on how she could help me; eg going to the library and get materials although she doesn't know exactly what I am working on, contacting someone that is working in agricultural field, asking my uncle who is a researcher etc etc. I was like... overwhelmed and find it quite cute. Quickly asking her not to do anything. Although I am not sure how much all those can help me but it is the thought that matters. So what do we do when we need to talk to someone? Most of the time we end up talking about our problems to our siblings or friends or just keep it to ourselves. Recently a friend said she felt much better complaining to friends than her mum as it would just make her mum worry more. That is true. Friends care about you, try to help you or most commmonly giving suggestions but they will worry about you only to a certain extent, not as much as your parents will. There is certain topic that we are not used to talk to our parents about nor comfortable talking about it. There may be a generation gap. However, that doesn't mean we should communicate less with our parents. They often feel more lonely as we grow up, leaving home persuing our own dreams, busy with our daily life. So, talk about happy stuff to our parents. Don't tell them about our problems if we do not want them to worry but no harm telling them if the problems are no longer problems. We can exhange opinions and learn from their experiences. We may be surprise sometimes with what they have to say. They will be so proud, knowing that their children are all grown up now. Opss, this remind me to better call my parents tonight. Hehe